This fantastic article was written by our forum member Bionca, a pretty pre-op tgirl and it I’m really proud to publish it here for it gives a good insight into tgirl psychology. A must read for all TS lovers!
You have a T-Girl..so now what??
For you guys who haven’t dated or been in the company of a transwoman (ladyboy, shemale..etc.) here a a few tips. This is for actual dates where you meet for dinner or drinks or coffee and money is not exchanged for the company.
1) DO: Use correct pronouns. SHE is not a “He” no matter what the doctors said at birth.
2) DON’T: Tell her she looks like a woman. Compliment her on how she looks (if you feel like it), but for goodness sake don’t act surprised. That tells her you expected a “man in a dress”.
3) DO: Be punctual, or communicate if you wil be running late. It’s polite and lots of TGs get stood up. Being really late with no explanation or warning tells anyone that they aren’t really important.
4) DON’T: Ask her what her “Real” name or “boy” name is. This probably brings up an unpleasant time in her life and it is often used by people to keep us in our place as “not really women” or “failed men”.
5) DON’T ask to see a picture of when she looked like a guy. Same as above but way way more. If you ever do see a picture of her from this time, understand that she is showing you herself when she was probably feeling her worst.
6) DO: Try to impress her. You don’t have to treat her like a princess, but you should use your best dating manners (ask what she likes to do, pay attention to her, smile alot).
7) DON’T: Treat her like your buddy. It’s like above, but more. Don’t leave her alone while you chat up another girl. She won’t take that as well as your guy friends would. Walk her to her door, even if you aren’t getting sex.
8) DO: Understand that she is an individual and has her own likes and dislikes. It will help your cause if you don’t assume too much about her.
9) DON’T: Ask about her genitalia or transgender history in public, or at least do it quietly. Most of us try to live unobserved in our daily lives. Broadcasting that your date has or had a penis is simply not safe for either of you.
10) DO: Have fun! Take her to a place you are both comfortable, get to know eachother, laugh and makes jokes, be relaxed and be prepared to have a great night with a woman who will notice and appreciate every little kindness and polite gesture you make.
Post tags: news, tgirl, transsexual
Related forum threads:
Thanks for the tips! I’m looking for my true heart’s desire, a t girl to marry and grow old together with.Your tips may be invaluable for me in the future, although I’d already thought of them, but it’s nice to be re-assured!
Thanks!
Alex
I am the female part of a couple and I would love to get with a shemale and My husband for more than just friends :.)
Char and Bruce
I am also in Tucson AZ and hope that there is a hot shemale that would be interested in meeting with us!
Thanks,
Char and Bruce
Also,
I and Bruce are very kinky and I am a Domina so it would be most interesting and I am well aware how to handle shemales, even when they “get that attitude:.)”
Char
So essentially, you’d treat her like a woman huh? I’ve always treated women very well and these rules here pretty much sum up how I treat them.
However, there is a slight difference with a tgirl. Mention of impressing them there.
I find it exceedingly difficult to impress a woman and a t-girl I would imagine is even more difficult to impress. The pressure to impress is difficult to overcome for me.
Any advice?
To treat a transwoman without regard to respect to the pronoun is a certain way to end any chance you could have. tggirl6@gmail.com
The best way to find a TS date is the site Transgenderdate.com…I have been going to that site since July. I have great luck with ladies both in the US and overseas. Its totally free and I haven’t met any unreal TS Girls on there just trying to get to your wallet. The only problem I have had is finding too many girls eager to chat and having to turn some really sweet girls down. Last month I found what I think is “the One”…we are meeting this week for the first time after a month long e-mail, text and cam chat relationship that has literally changed my world. In addition, I used all of the ten tips given for dating a T-Girl and they have all been 100% on the mark…good luck all, and now I am off to meet the T-girl I have always dreamed of. I will let everone know how it went.
Well gang, it’s been 10 days since I met my lady in person for the first time. I have to say it was the greatest date, adventure, getaway (what ever) I have ever had in my entire life. I took my girl on the most romantic tour I could think of…we went to The Magic Kingdom in Orlando and it lived up to every expectation I have ever had. Although the sex was absolutley the best I have ever had, it turned into so much more! We dined, danced, explored, loved, walked and talked to our hearts content for 5 of the most magical days of our lives. We were like a pair of lovesick teenagers exploring each other like it was our first time. She is the sweetest soul I have ever met and somewhere along the way, we both fell head over heals in love with one another. At somepoint she playfully scoulded me for making her fall in love with me. Needless to say, the ten crucial dating tips were instrumental in such a great success story…thanks!!!!
Hello
I am writing to you and I hope to identify your
I am a young man 31 years old look for the marriage of true Shemale
I am seriously in demand
Wait for the reply to my request
Thank you
To Kommando,
My congrats ! I am still waitin to meet my ideal ladyboy. I have to go all the way to Thailand to meet her. There is where she lives and she does not know yet. To me, they are to be treated like you will treat the love of your life or girlfriend. With respect and kindness. Wish you the best and hope it last. Do not break her heart.